Comments on: What to say…

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 00:00:42 +0000

My words seem to fail me as I write this comment, but I wanted to let you know that I will be praying for you guys as you figure out what is best for you. Thank you and kudos for your honesty about what is going on. As hard as this all is, it is nice to hear from other blogger who have been or are going through the same thing. I pray for sunny days ahead.
~Sarah~

By: ariana

ariana — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 20:49:30 +0000

Lily, please feel free..

By: Lily

Lily — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 20:38:19 +0000

Also would it be alright with you if I shared your five things on my blog? I’ll credit back to you. Your list really resounded with me.

By: Lily

Lily — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 20:18:46 +0000

The five things you posted really resonated with me. I am guilty of taking my husband for granted at times. Again thank you for sharing these two posts.

By: Molly

Molly — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:07:13 +0000

Ariana, I have not checked your blog in a few weeks so I had to go back to the official “announcment.” I cannot imagine all the emotions you must be feeling right now. I don’t even have good advice to offer because any words seem useless for someone in your situation. All I can say is rely on the support around you (sounds like you have some amazing parents). Keep writing. It really is an outlet for emotions that have no other path to take other than causing you to go crazy. Someone gave me that exact same poem when I had my very first break-up in high school (definitely not the same, for sure) but I always remembered that poem. Every word of it is so very true.

You are a very smart girl. Surely you realize that the foundation of your marriage was not a mistake. You were doing what was right in that moment even though it turned out to be wrong in the end. We are actually supposed to live in the moment. Not in the days. Not in the years. Because we will never know if we have days or years. We only have this moment. So keep that in mind when you’re scared of the future. Things will be okay if you concentrate on RIGHT NOW. And right now, well, you’ve got Jasper. Hold onto him. That love will NEVER fail.

By: Samm Ivri

Samm Ivri — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 04:40:06 +0000

I love the poem. THere are many lessons in it that I have already learned in my 33 years. And others that have me thinking in new ways. I especially like these two:

“You start to learn that you should not compare yourself with others,
But with the best you can be.”

“You learn that we shall never tell a child that dreams are silly,
Very few things are so humiliating,
And it would be a tragedy if she believed in it.”

How true.

See, you are already on your way to self discovery and improvement. I know you will come out of this ordeal a better person, regardless of which way it goes.

By: Joanna

Joanna — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 00:36:51 +0000

Hi Ariana,

I just read your posts today. I am very sad to hear the news of course. I married very young and had a super ugly divorce at 28. I married my “rebound” and have never been happier. You will find there are a lot of other people in your shoes which doesn’t make it suck any less but does provide comfort. If it is best for you both I truly hope a reconciliation is possible. I agree with what Kimberely said- you guys have been through SO much. It seemed the first few months of baby Jasper seemed son incredibly difficult which I’m sure took it’s toll…as a new mom myself I can’t believe how well you handled it all. Anyway, if a reconciliation is not possible don’t lose heart. You may find yourself in a completely different place a year or two from now – one that you would not have believed to be possible. 35 these days is young, you could very well have another child in the next few years – if I remember correctly you had unexplained infertility- which means it is definitely possible, no?? You have a lot to offer, you are beautiful, talented (as this blog shows) and you seem to be an amazing mother! Hang in there and the best of luck with whatever happens!!!

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 23:48:16 +0000

Ariana,
Thanks for you comment on my video post….
You should not take our wedding reading as evidence of your failure; rather as an ideal to strive toward together. Lord knows, we certainly don’t live up to the ideal most of the time… but it serves as a reminder to focus inward as a couple when things get bad, or even just complacent. Maybe it’s not too late. I don’t know if your marriage is salvageable; maybe you don’t either. I hope for all three of your sakes that it is… and if not, I am confident you will go forward with strength and grace and raise a beautiful little boy while finding the path that awaits you. :)

By: Jill

Jill — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 22:00:30 +0000

Oh, hon. I am so sorry. I don’t know that I have much more wisdom to offer. Just lots of virtual ((hugs)).

By: Allyson

Allyson — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 21:23:56 +0000

All I can say is ‘Wow’. Your strength resonates through your writing. I am amazed! Thanks for sharing this part of you with us. Everything happens for a reason, I truly believe this. You will find your answers somehow. Stay strong and stay true to YOU.