Comments on: A Weekend of Ferber http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/02/23/a-weekend-of-ferber/ One Woman's Conception Obsession Sat, 31 Jul 2010 18:29:02 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Becky http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/02/23/a-weekend-of-ferber/comment-page-1/#comment-2572 Becky Fri, 06 Mar 2009 23:12:32 +0000 http://www.becoming-mom.net/?p=554#comment-2572 Oh, thank you! I should have thought of that with the velvet. Very clever. I do agree with your rule about flash, actually. Everything always gets so washed out if I use it. Alas, I have also been thinking my point and shoot was going to hold me. But my new baby is just too cute for such a blah camera. You're photos have inspired me and this morning I ordered a new Nikon D60 with a couple of lens. I cannot wait until it arrives! I'm going to be a religious reader of your tips now. Oh, thank you! I should have thought of that with the velvet. Very clever. I do agree with your rule about flash, actually. Everything always gets so washed out if I use it. Alas, I have also been thinking my point and shoot was going to hold me. But my new baby is just too cute for such a blah camera. You’re photos have inspired me and this morning I ordered a new Nikon D60 with a couple of lens. I cannot wait until it arrives! I’m going to be a religious reader of your tips now.

]]> By: ariana http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/02/23/a-weekend-of-ferber/comment-page-1/#comment-2550 ariana Tue, 03 Mar 2009 18:48:03 +0000 http://www.becoming-mom.net/?p=554#comment-2550 Hi Becky, thanks! I used a black velvet curtain that I bought at Nation'l Wholesale Liquidators for really cheap (before they went belly up!). As for using flash, see my commandment here: http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/01/16/photography-discussion-a-few-basic-tips/ :-) Hi Becky, thanks!

I used a black velvet curtain that I bought at Nation’l Wholesale Liquidators for really cheap (before they went belly up!). As for using flash, see my commandment here:
http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/01/16/photography-discussion-a-few-basic-tips/
:-)

]]> By: Becky http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/02/23/a-weekend-of-ferber/comment-page-1/#comment-2549 Becky Tue, 03 Mar 2009 17:16:34 +0000 http://www.becoming-mom.net/?p=554#comment-2549 I LOVE your photos, esp the ones of Jasper (great name!). I've been trying to get some good looking ones of my three month old. How did you get the black background? I tried putting my baby on a black sheet but it just looked washed out in the photo b/c of the flash. I LOVE your photos, esp the ones of Jasper (great name!). I’ve been trying to get some good looking ones of my three month old. How did you get the black background? I tried putting my baby on a black sheet but it just looked washed out in the photo b/c of the flash.

]]> By: Marybeth at www.babygoodbuys.com http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/02/23/a-weekend-of-ferber/comment-page-1/#comment-2509 Marybeth at www.babygoodbuys.com Mon, 23 Feb 2009 23:40:35 +0000 http://www.becoming-mom.net/?p=554#comment-2509 Well, we only have daycare two days a week, but I think babies distinguish between home and daycare really early. From what I've heard from friends and co-workers, babies understand that a different environment = different behavior.If you're happy with the care he's receiving, I think it's best to just let daycare be and continue what you're doing at home (it sounds like you're most concerned about night sleeping/waking/feeding anyway, right?). I know Ferberizing is miserable, but it also seems like it takes 1 or 2 weeks tops to get results you're looking for. Good luck! Well, we only have daycare two days a week, but I think babies distinguish between home and daycare really early. From what I’ve heard from friends and co-workers, babies understand that a different environment = different behavior.If you’re happy with the care he’s receiving, I think it’s best to just let daycare be and continue what you’re doing at home (it sounds like you’re most concerned about night sleeping/waking/feeding anyway, right?).

I know Ferberizing is miserable, but it also seems like it takes 1 or 2 weeks tops to get results you’re looking for. Good luck!

]]> By: vtjill http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/02/23/a-weekend-of-ferber/comment-page-1/#comment-2508 vtjill Mon, 23 Feb 2009 21:06:45 +0000 http://www.becoming-mom.net/?p=554#comment-2508 Unfortunately I have no advice. We were sleeping pretty great pre-daycare (bed at 7:30pm, up at 2:30am, 5am and then up for the day at 6:30am). Now that she is in daycare (and has been since early January), her sleep schedule is a mess during the day. There is no structure and her naps are all over the place (both duration of nap and timing during the day). It is very frustrating and has totally impacted her night routine. She now sleeps no more than 3 hours at a time (on a good night). I really think it is a structure/schedule issue because on the weekends she will nap for us without too much issue but it requires us paying attention to her signals (that first yawn, eye rub). I hate to say it but I think at the daycare there is too much going on for them to pay close attention like that. They will let her go for up to four hours with no nap and at home she doesn't last more than two (maybe two and a half) hours before she is down again. So, no advice, just sympathy. I was so sure we would never have to ferberize her based on her earlier nighttime sleeping pattern but now I know that is most likely where we are headed. We'll wait until she is six months old (she is five months now). I already dread it! Unfortunately I have no advice. We were sleeping pretty great pre-daycare (bed at 7:30pm, up at 2:30am, 5am and then up for the day at 6:30am). Now that she is in daycare (and has been since early January), her sleep schedule is a mess during the day. There is no structure and her naps are all over the place (both duration of nap and timing during the day). It is very frustrating and has totally impacted her night routine. She now sleeps no more than 3 hours at a time (on a good night). I really think it is a structure/schedule issue because on the weekends she will nap for us without too much issue but it requires us paying attention to her signals (that first yawn, eye rub). I hate to say it but I think at the daycare there is too much going on for them to pay close attention like that. They will let her go for up to four hours with no nap and at home she doesn’t last more than two (maybe two and a half) hours before she is down again. So, no advice, just sympathy.

I was so sure we would never have to ferberize her based on her earlier nighttime sleeping pattern but now I know that is most likely where we are headed. We’ll wait until she is six months old (she is five months now). I already dread it!

]]> By: ariana http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/02/23/a-weekend-of-ferber/comment-page-1/#comment-2507 ariana Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:32:48 +0000 http://www.becoming-mom.net/?p=554#comment-2507 Oh good, we can muddle through together! In our case, even though my instincts tell me to run in there the second he starts crying I find myself checking him much less than I want to because he gets more hysterical when I leave after a check than he was before :( Oh good, we can muddle through together! In our case, even though my instincts tell me to run in there the second he starts crying I find myself checking him much less than I want to because he gets more hysterical when I leave after a check than he was before :(

]]> By: Ali http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/02/23/a-weekend-of-ferber/comment-page-1/#comment-2506 Ali Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:29:48 +0000 http://www.becoming-mom.net/?p=554#comment-2506 We just started "Ferber" too (at 9 months). Well, it is like our family's adaptation of Ferber. Miles's nights aren't terrible, but he still wakes up 1-2 times. We don't do the graduated stuff, but just always go in after 5-10 minutes and pat him (and I also nurse and pick him up if I really am struggling). I mean, my instincts so strongly tell me to go in and comfort him! We are having the exact same problem with childcare. Due to close quarters, they won't let babies cry for too long, so they pretty much all get rocked to sleep. What's worse is that Miles wakes up when other babies fuss, so he takes about 5 20 minute catnaps a day. (ugh!). Our plan is to stick to a really good routine on the weekends of napping, and are going to try to not be as quiet around his napping to let him know it is okay to sleep while activity is happening. I may just have to keep looking at the comments to see what others have for advice! Keep up the good work, and I say trust your instincts. You are not alone... :) We just started “Ferber” too (at 9 months). Well, it is like our family’s adaptation of Ferber. Miles’s nights aren’t terrible, but he still wakes up 1-2 times. We don’t do the graduated stuff, but just always go in after 5-10 minutes and pat him (and I also nurse and pick him up if I really am struggling). I mean, my instincts so strongly tell me to go in and comfort him!

We are having the exact same problem with childcare. Due to close quarters, they won’t let babies cry for too long, so they pretty much all get rocked to sleep. What’s worse is that Miles wakes up when other babies fuss, so he takes about 5 20 minute catnaps a day. (ugh!). Our plan is to stick to a really good routine on the weekends of napping, and are going to try to not be as quiet around his napping to let him know it is okay to sleep while activity is happening.

I may just have to keep looking at the comments to see what others have for advice!

Keep up the good work, and I say trust your instincts. You are not alone… :)

]]> By: ariana http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/02/23/a-weekend-of-ferber/comment-page-1/#comment-2505 ariana Mon, 23 Feb 2009 19:45:41 +0000 http://www.becoming-mom.net/?p=554#comment-2505 Katie, Congrats on making it through your first day, that is definitely the hardest! I consider myself very lucky that I am close enough to feed Jasper at lunchtime. How nice for you though that you are the boss of your daycare :) Katie, Congrats on making it through your first day, that is definitely the hardest! I consider myself very lucky that I am close enough to feed Jasper at lunchtime. How nice for you though that you are the boss of your daycare :)

]]> By: Katie http://www.becoming-mom.net/2009/02/23/a-weekend-of-ferber/comment-page-1/#comment-2504 Katie Mon, 23 Feb 2009 19:35:38 +0000 http://www.becoming-mom.net/?p=554#comment-2504 My 2-month old just started daycare today. I only worked a half day, so we're home already and so far, her first nap came immediately after her bottle. We do not normally do that. I told her teachers that I only have 1 request and that is to not let her fall asleep while or immediately after eating. (I have to limit my requests since I'm their boss and I do NOT want them getting irritated with me or Lilly!) I think they did exactly what I asked today. She was just so tired and cranky when we got home that I gave her a bottle and couldn't bring myself to keep her up any longer. So I guess what I am trying to say is that we're going to stick to our norm as much as possible and chose THE most important detail (which, for us is following the E.A.S.Y. plan). I know there will be days when it all gets tossed in the wind, but I think if we just stick to our plan as best we can and not give up on it, that she'll just fall into her own rhythm. I know Jasper is a bit older and has been going to day care for a little while already, but I think it applies. Just keep doing what you are doing and he will learn the difference between home and day care. Good luck!! This whole day care thing is ROUGH! I'm only 10 steps away from my peanut, yet I felt like I was miles away today. My 2-month old just started daycare today. I only worked a half day, so we’re home already and so far, her first nap came immediately after her bottle. We do not normally do that. I told her teachers that I only have 1 request and that is to not let her fall asleep while or immediately after eating. (I have to limit my requests since I’m their boss and I do NOT want them getting irritated with me or Lilly!) I think they did exactly what I asked today. She was just so tired and cranky when we got home that I gave her a bottle and couldn’t bring myself to keep her up any longer.

So I guess what I am trying to say is that we’re going to stick to our norm as much as possible and chose THE most important detail (which, for us is following the E.A.S.Y. plan). I know there will be days when it all gets tossed in the wind, but I think if we just stick to our plan as best we can and not give up on it, that she’ll just fall into her own rhythm.

I know Jasper is a bit older and has been going to day care for a little while already, but I think it applies. Just keep doing what you are doing and he will learn the difference between home and day care.

Good luck!! This whole day care thing is ROUGH! I’m only 10 steps away from my peanut, yet I felt like I was miles away today.

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